Saturday, November 04, 2006


* Extra Sensory Persuasion ... for the sake of this post!

How often have you found yourself saying, "Great minds think alike" when you find yourself having the same idea as another person. You might reach for the phone to call someone, and just then your phone rings and it's that person at the other end. You might decide it's high time you write a note to a friend, and before you attempt to write one, you go to your mailbox and find a note from that friend waiting for you.

I have always had that "psychic" relationship with my mother. I can forever hear her saying, after I've said something, "How did you know I was going to say that?" or "How did you know it was me on the other end of the line?" or "I was just going to call you" when it's me who calls her.

Surprisingly enough, I have that rapport with my husband, too. Even when we were dating, I "clicked" with him in more ways than one. "How did you know I was going to say that?" became a common refrain between us.

Tonight I had another taste of our connectedness. My husband went grocery shopping after Shabbos, in preparation for a light supper we're hosting tomorrow night for family.We'd decided he was going to buy sugar waffle cones -- something we never buy -- because we have ice cream at home, and that would make for a nice dessert.

When he was gone, I realized that waffle cones are rather big, thus take a lot of scoops per cone, and we probably didn't have enough ice cream to go around. So I decided to call him with a change of plans. Only problem was that his phone didn't get picked up and I was forced to leave a message. I said that perhaps instead of cones, he should buy waffle cone cups instead so it would be more appropriate for the amount of ice cream we have, and maybe some strawberries or berries to cut up on top and whipped cream to decorate with. (we've never bought waffle cone cups, and it is once every several years that we buy whipped cream)

Well, he came home, dropped off some bags, then went to the van to get more. As I unpacked the first bunch of bags, I saw a can of whipped cream. And I thought, "Good, so he got my message."

He walked into the house again and I said, "Good, I see you got my message."

"What message?"

"The one I left you. I was afraid you didn't hear it."

"I didn't check for messages.... I want to show what I got.... I decided instead of waffle cones to buy waffle cups. It'll be really a nice dessert." And he pulls a box of these out of a shopping bag.

"And I didn't buy them tonight, but I thought we could buy strawberries or berries tomorrow to put on top. I did buy whipped cream, though."

Another coincidence for the books.

I asked, "Did you really not listen to the phone message I left?"


"Please listen to it!"

I announced then, "There's a reason Hashem put us together!"


Sweettooth120 said...

I was just having a conversation with someone about this today, not neccessarily ESP, but similar coincidences, paranormal type of stuff. I wonder how many ppl actually believe in the supernatural/spiritual world but do not believe in God, or a divine being? My question to this guy was can the supernatural/soul exist without a divine being behind it?

It is cool when you have these type of relationships. I have a close friend that it always seems that we are connected in that way. It can quite freaky.

Mia said...

I have that too with my hubby. I think if you spend a lot of time with a person you start to think in a similar way and can say what the other one is thinking, maybe you develop some sort of inner clock when to ring etc. I don´t really think it is psychic.

It took a while until it started with us and in the beginning I was like what the heck, how can you answer what I wanted to ask but never said? He would send me a text message to my mobile the same moment I would call, etc.

It is a fantastic feeling :D

cruisin-mom said...

great story Pearl. It is food for thought (pardon the pun...since the post is about dessert!). Are we put together by G-d with people who think like us; do we choose them; or do we just grow together after being with someone for awhile.

terry said...

this is something to be mindful to appreciate, for these are the moments that truly enrich our lives.
and for added sweetness, extra guests -- 2 ever-hungry boys -- to benefit from this happy coincidence :o)

torontopearl said...

Sweettooth: "Freaky" is indeed often the word. Interesting thought re. belief systems. I have no answer.

Mia: I think some people are just more attuned to each other for whatever reasons. Yes, it can develop with time, but in the case of my husband and I, it was soon after we began dating that we were in sync.

CM: No real answers for you there. It is said that we are matched with our beshert before we are even born...

Terry: Glad you could partake in our dessert. Thanks for popping in.