Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Time Waits for No One

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Along with keeping a journal for so many years, I also kept date books/calendars with a brief note for each square. And as time passed I liked to look back to what I did, for example, on the 24th of each month of a particular year, or what I'd done on the same date a year or two earlier.

I didn't always know why I was recording little tidbits, but I felt the pull to do so.

Keeping a blog works in a similar fashion; I can look back a year ago, and see my entry for the equivalent day, but last year, Wednesday being the 23rd of February.

Wednesday, February 23, 2005

A Working Mother's Woes
Woe is me...I'm a working mom. Okay, so I bring home a few shekels, and I help pay for the mortgage, the second car, the insurance, the household bills, the day care, the schooling, the day camp, the extra-curricular lessons, shul membership, the dog food, the-- Oh wait, I said I bring home a few shekels, and I help pay for... the dog food. Yup, that's about it. So why am I out there, rushing to and from work, leaving my husband to deal with chauffeuring and meal preps and homework till I get home. I'm not the main breadwinner in this family by any means, but I do help out a bit.

Recently hubby and I looked at my checkbook to see if there was a pattern to my spending habits -- oh, ya, the pattern is THE KIDS. I pay for swimming, for hockey, for chess, for other mind-expanding, brain-enlightening courses they pursue, for school expenses (of course, those are on top of tuition, on top of school uniforms, on top of supply lists) such as trips and food programs and Scholastic book orders.Yes, we spend on THE KIDS, but the rewards are plentiful. My kids will swim/skate up to me, and in a loud and clear voice one of them will ask me to join him in a game of chess. I'll refuse, reminding him that it is in fact I who needs to take chess lessons, and tell him to play with his father, while I suggest his sister read the Scholastic book I ordered. In the meantime, I'll do the laundry and wash my daughter's school jumper and her brother's zippered school logo jacket.

And littlest child, not yet in school, will look at me, and with pleading eyes ask, "Can I have a brownie?" "Sure," I say. After all, it's only a brownie, and not a cataloged list of Scholastic books he wants me to buy for him, or an after-school program he wants to take, or a knapsack he insists on having because it's the latest schoolyard look.

Thank G-d for small blessings...

Okay, so it's now a year later...hmm. Let me see what, if anything, has changed.

Yes, I'm still a working mom. And yes, I still manage to bring in a few shekels. Okay, youngest child is now in school, so he too has become of of "them" -- those school kids who has needs: needs supplies, needs to be included in the optional lunch program, needs trip money, needs his tuition paid. And instead of a brownie, he now needs to have a cream-cheese sandwich as a snack.

Okay, and there's no chess, but there's a performance class a la Broadway musicals; there's still swimming, and hockey team, and now Karate to help round out some already well-rounded-out kids.

Oh, and the dog is a different one. He also has needs -- he needs different pet food, he needs different toys, he needs to get "altered" and he needs puppy classes. I'm beginning to think that his needs will cost me more than those of my kids.

You know what I need? Nothing. 'Cause even a year later, I can still thank G-d for my small...and large...blessings!


cruisin-mom said...

That's interesting to be able to look back in that way and see where you were and where you've come. I'm not sure I want to know!

Mia said...

I also kept all my agenda from previous years and now that I have to clean up and go through all my stuff, I often find myself reading in them. When I read what I did on particular days, I can remember exactly how it felt or how I felt, it´s amazing how words can take you back in time. One of the reasons I am writing my blog is to be able to go back and read my memoirs :) (hope bloggers server will never crash and if it does, hope they have a backup!!!)

Regina Clare Jane said...

Thanks for coming to visit me today! You have a very nice blog as well! I used to keep yearly diaries, but I stopped for some reason... my husband is a fanatic about them, so maybe that's why I quit. We can always look in his little books and find out exactly what we were doing- and yes, be grateful as well that we made it through another year!

Mirty said...

I sometimes wonder too why I work. I earn about one-third of what my husband makes. But my paycheck does pay for the dog food & vet bills. (Four dogs -- it adds up.) I think it gives us some "wiggle room" financially. But most importantly, I keep my own wits sharp by working. I have a smart husband so I have to keep up with him. :)

Ezer K'negdo said...

Read your blog for a while, but first comment: kudos to you for writing it all down; your grandkids will thank you! i am a rabid scrapbook person - i carry a camera wherever i go, i have disposable cameras in every bag, pocketbook, car... my husband thinks it is a disease :-)

torontopearl said...

Hello, all,

Thank you for commenting on this post.

Keeping brief notes in calendars about daily happenings can be a great thing...but sometimes I wonder if I'm just trying to somehow "hold on to time" by doing this.

Ezer knegdo: Welcome, and thanks for reading my words and commenting on them. I like your style better, ie. pics and scrapbooks. It allows for more creativity and more of a personal touch than scribbling, "Science Centre with the kids" in the calendar square for Jan. 18, 2004.

Ezer K'negdo said...

I can understand that - that is why i take the pictures - to hold on to that particular moment in time. my children are growing so fast -too fast - and I want to capture it and hold on to it forever. Words can do the same, no need for pictures. words can be creative and inspiring.