Friday, May 04, 2007
Two Roads Diverged...
Wednesday, May 02, 2007
Scenes from a Childhood
Upon Hanging Up the Phone
Me: "Bye, Dad. I love you."
After hanging up the phone, I say aloud: "It's nicer to hear yours!!"
A Page out of History
At the turn of the twentieth century, two of the wealthiest and most famous men in America were a pair of Jewish brothers named Nathan and Isidor Straus. Owners of R.H. Macy's Department Store and founders of the A&S (Abraham & Straus) chain, the brothers were multimillionaires, renowned for their philanthropy and social activism.
In 1912, the brothers and their wives were touring Europe, when Nathan, the more ardent Zionist of the two, impulsively said one day, "Hey, why don't we hop over to Palestine?" Israel wasn't the tourist hotspot then that it is today. Its population was ravaged by disease, famine, and poverty; but the two had a strong sense of solidarity with their less fortunate brethren, and they also wanted to see the health and welfare centers they had endowed with their millions. However, after a week spent touring, Isidor Straus had had enough.
"How many camels, hovels, and yeshivas can you see? It's time to go," Isidor decreed with edgy impatience in his voice. But Nathan refused to heed his brother's imperious command. It wasn't that he was oblivious to the hardships around him; it was precisely because of them that he wanted to stay.
As he absorbed firsthand the vastness of the challenges his fellow Jews were coping with, he felt the burden of responsibility. "We can't leave now," he protested. "Look how much work has to be done here. We have to help. We have the means to help. We can't turn our backs on our people."
"So we'll send more money," his brother snapped back. "I just want to get out of here."
But Nathan felt that money simply wasn't enough. He felt that the Jews who lived under such dire circumstances in Palestine needed the brothers' very presence among them: their initiative,their leadership, and their ideas. Isidor disagreed.
The two argued back and forth, and finally Isidor said, "If you insist, stay here. Ida and I are going back to America where we belong."
The two separated. Isidor and his wife returned to Europe, while Nathan and his spouse stayed in Palestine, traveling the country and contributing huge sums of money to the establishment of education, health, and social welfare programs to benefit the needy. Nathan also financed the creation of a brand-new city on the shores of the Mediterranean. And since his name in Hebrew was Natan, and he was the city's chief donor, the founders named it after him and called it...Natanya.
Meanwhile, back in Europe, Isidor Straus was preparing to sail home to America aboard an ocean liner for which he had also made reservations for his brother, Nathan, and his wife. "You must leave Palestine NOW!" he cabled his brother in an urgent telegram. "I have made reservations for you and if you don't get here soon, you'll miss the boat."
But Nathan delayed. There was so much work to be done that he waited until the last possible moment to make the connection. By the time he reached London, it was April 12 and the liner had already left port in Southampton with Isidor and Ida Straus aboard. Nathan felt disconsolate that he had, as his brother had warned, "missed the boat." For this was no ordinary expedition, no common, everyday cruise that he had forfeited, but the much ballyhooed maiden voyage of the most famous ship of the century. This was the Titanic.
Nathan Straus, grief-stricken and deeply mourning his brother and sister-in-law could not shake off his sense that he had had a rendezvous with history. The knowledge that he had avoided death permeated his consciousness for the rest of his life, and until his death in l931, he pursued his philanthropic activities with an intensity that was unrivaled in his time.
Today, Natanya is a scenic resort city of 200,000 and headquarters to Israel's thriving diamond trade - one of the most important industries in the country. And in almost every part of the city, there is some small reminder of Nathan Straus's largesse, his humanity, and love for his people. His legacy lives on.
I find Jewish tidbits of information like this very interesting. Here is another link to Straus trivia.
Monday, April 30, 2007
Mind over Matter
I haven't talked about my father very much since he came home from hospital. In a way, there's too much to say about him, and in other ways there's not enough to say. Progress has been very slow and there have been some setbacks, too. Let me put it to you this way: it is not easy on him, it is not easy at all on my mother. And it is not easy for his children to see the diminishment in capabilities and cognition. It seems as if the decline is faster than it was before, and no doubt it is, brought on by such stark medical traumas to his body and his mind.
The memory falters rather frequently, even in the midst of normal conversations. Weakness permeates his bones and his person. "What is happening to me?" has been a popular refrain, my mother tells me. And I've been witness to "Ich hab nisht kein koyach mer." (I no longer have any strength.) It doesn't help that my father, and mother, are battling very bad upper respiratory viruses/flus right now, either.
But every day is a new day. And every day that my father wakes up, is able to daven and say "Thank G-d," is a true gift -- for him and for us.
Today I saw a bit of my "old father." Not the old, old man he's suddenly become, regardless of his advanced years, but my father "of old."
We were talking about his hometown, Tarnogrod, and I was telling him that I'd been contacted by someone from JewishGen, who informed me that marriage/death/birth records from certain pre-World War 2 years were now available...for a fee. I also told him that I'd been on the official gov't site for the town and saw a photo of a large synagogue that was now a library. (see top right photo in official town link)
He began to tell me the history of the town, who founded it and when, and suddenly he started saying something in Polish. Although I don't speak or understand the language at all, I could tell that he was reciting something like a poem. He had regained a twinkle in his eye -- which I really have not seen in WEEKS!!!!!!!!! And he had a smile, or rather more of a slanted grin...almost like a "cat who ate the canary" look on his face as he recited. He was showing off! My father was showing off something he remembered from the past, from a long-ago past. And when he finished his recitation, he said to my mother and I, "I learned that in grade three." Imagine, sometimes he doesn't know what day of the week it is, and doesn't know the month we're in, but he happily and proudly recited something he'd learned all those years ago -- and we're talking close to eighty years ago!
For that sparkle in his eyes, I wish I'd had a camera.
For that lopsided grin and that look he threw my mother and I, as in "See...my memory works just fine," I wish I'd had a camera.
For a glimpse at the schoolboy in him reciting an ancient Polish historical poem, I wish I'd had a camera.
No, I didn't have a camera, but those moments will no doubt linger in my heart.
778...and Counting
Thursday, April 26, 2007
Five Questions
1. If you could go back and change one thing about the path you have taken in your life, what would that one thing be?
Although I struggled in school with "the sciences," I probably should not have dropped them after grade 10. I should have pursued sciences and gone on to study clinical psychology or psychiatry.
Other than that, I wish I could have been bolder while growing up. I had to wait to become an adult to "find my voice."
2. Swimming Or Skiing?
3. You have been given the opportunity of having dinner with any 5 "living" celebrities of your choice. Who would they be and why?
5. The Zoo has said that you may take home any one animal. What would you choose and why?
2. I will respond by asking you five questions. I get to pick the questions.
3. You will update your blog with the answers to the questions.
4., You will include the explanation and an offer to interview someone else in the same post.
5. When others comment, asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.
Like Mother, Like Daughter
I was wearing a long-sleeve, blue-and-white striped top, and a jean skirt.
My mother was wearing the exact same long-sleeve, blue-and-white striped top (she'd bought one for her and one for me way back when), and a jean skirt.
Great minds think alike...
Sunday, April 22, 2007
"Ehfoh Avi?"
"What happened today in the Beaches?" I tried to recall.
"You know, the man who spoke Hebrew..."
"That won't interest anyone; that sort of stuff happens all the time..."
And yet I still find myself writing this at my son's earlier request...
The Beaches is at the southernmost point of Toronto, bordering Lake Ontario. It is a beautiful community with the most wonderful architecture -- which happens to be rather expensive real estate -- and is in high demand. There is a boardwalk alongside the beach, and nearby is the main street with funky shops, cafes, salons, restaurants, pet shops and bookstores.
People patrol up and down the main street, Queen Street east, many of them with dogs in tow, or carriages and toddlers. There are nearby parks and pools and gardens for visitors and natives to enjoy.
Today was a glorious Toronto day, a summer day, not an April 22nd type of day. Towards the end of the afternoon, we packed up the kids and dog, and headed to the Beaches, first doing our stroll on the avenue before heading to the boardwalk and beach area itself.
I was with my two sons in front of a pet store, where I was trying to get Max to take a drink from a water bowl outside the store. He was more interested in sniffing out the other pooches at the watering hole than the water itself.
Suddenly I heard Hebrew being spoken. I turned around to look and saw two fifty-something couples conversing. I'm the type of person to pipe up when I hear Hebrew in a very public place and I often throw in a word or two to startle the speaker. This time I held back.
My oldest son heard the Hebrew and pointed it out to me. I nodded, implying that I know.
I then called him by name and told him to come.
The next thing I heard was one of the Hebrew-speaking men say, "Ehfoh Avi?" (where's Avi?)
I turned, and with a big smile said, "Hu shum"! (he's there)
I think my son was surprised by this brief exchange. If he'd only know what kind of in-depth conversations I've had with strangers when I hear them speak Hebrew in least-expected places in Toronto and elsewhere.
I smiled at my son as we walked away and told him that in our case, English AND Hebrew are universal languages.
Shalom.
Friday, April 20, 2007
His Roots are in Yiddish Theater...
He's been married several times: one wife was Gloria Vanderbilt. Another wife made him Lena Horne's son-in-law.
One of his personal quotes is a brilliant one: "There's no such thing as a small part. There are just small actors."
Just a brief look at Sidney Lumet.
Shabbat Shalom...with the stress on shalom/peace.
Thursday, April 19, 2007
What Will They Think of Next?
Do Our Personalities Change...or Just Develop?
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
On a High
Sunday, April 15, 2007
A Quotable Mention
Writing is like life: we think we control it but we don't, everyone else's seems better, and there's ambivalent yet abundant hope that with enough time we'll get it right.
A Survivor's Moment
A Survivor’s Moment
His eyes look directly into mine.
Not playful this time –
More like pleading.
“I don’t even have a picture
of my mother,” he says,
and walks out –
leaving me bewildered,
pensive
and apologetic.
Friday, April 13, 2007
The Road Less Traveled
Go to Google Maps (http://maps.google.com/maps) and click on “Get Directions.”
Type in “New York, NY” as your starting point and “Paris, France” as your destination.
Once it computes your directions, scroll down to #23.
Sunday, April 08, 2007
Thinking Out Loud
A Special Birthday Boy
Tomorrow is my husband's 47th birthday.
I'm not sure where the time has flown for him for most of these 47 years, but I know where and how it's flown since December 1992, when we had our first date...and December 1993, when we got married...and June 1995, when we had our first child...and August 1997, when we had our second child...and March 2000, when we had our third child.
I wish Mr. TorontoPearl a happy and healthy birthday and a most wonderful year.
And I will borrow these beautiful song lyrics to help celebrate my husband and his special day...
WHAT ARE YOU DOING THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?
What are you doing the rest of your life?
North and south and east and west of your
life?
I
have only one request of your life
That you spend it all with me.
All the seasons and the times of your days.
All the nickels and the
dimes of your days.
Let the
reasons and the rhymes of your
days.
All begin and end with
me.
I want to see your face,
In every kind of light,
In
fields of gold and
Forests of the night;
And when you stand before
The candles on a cake.
Oh let
me be the one to hear
The silent wish you make.
Those tomorrows
waiting deep in your eyes
In the world of love you keep in your eyes,
I'll awaken what's asleep in your eyes,
It may take a kiss or two...
Through all of my life...
Summer, winter, spring and fall of my
life,
All I ever will recall of my life
Is all of my life with
you.**********
Chag Sameach to you all.
Friday, April 06, 2007
The Interviewer aka The Liar
Have I been happy this past year?
Yes, and no.
I've still had trouble learning how to use this newfound freedom that is part of my day, as opposed to the regular 9-5 routine that was so much a part of my life for so many years.
But I've been more than happy to get reacquainted with my husband, my children, our dog and our home.
I've been job hunting over these past months and have come to realize that I was insulated for too many years in the same job, doing the same thing. The publishing world has grown, but I have not...at least not in my skill set. I am lacking, and should do something about acquiring the publishing computer program skills that so many companies seem to be seeking.
Nonetheless, I've managed to have a handful of job interviews. Even interviews are something new for me, as I've not had to "undergo" one for many years. There is an etiquette to learn about interviews -- the right questions to ask and the right question NOT TO ASK. I'm still learning what not to ask! (in the past, all my jobs have been the result of one interview; I forget these days, at least two interviews is the norm)
In any case, I think that the interviewer has to learn an etiquette of his/her own. At least on two occasions, I was told, "We'll be in touch."
Okay, so I'm still waiting....
It's like going out on a date and having the guy tell you at the end of the date, "I'll call you." And you wait by the phone, hoping and wondering...and waiting...and waiting...and realizing it was just a line he served you.
These interviewers don't just feed you a line. They outright LIE. I'm a mature 45-year-old. Why not call me, or email me, and say, "Thanks for coming in, but we're looking at some other candidates. Thank you for your time. Good luck with the job hunt."
I had two editors at a world-renowned educational/children's publisher interview me for one of two positions, and as one of them led me out the door, she said, "I'll be in touch." Ten days later, all I could say was "Liar, liar, pants on fire..."
And a few weeks ago, a smaller publisher's main editor interviewed me, and said, "I'll look at your tests and will be in touch within the next couple of weeks." LIKE HELL you were.
C'mon, people. Being an interviewer might be nerve-wracking; being an interviewee is worse. Being lied to is even worse than that. It's totally unprofessional. Okay, so don't call me, but follow up even several weeks later with a note from your HR department to me.
Don't leave me hanging. I'm worth more than that!
And if you hire me, I'll even prove it to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Memories of Pesachs Past
I'm sure that each and every one of you recall the Pesachs of your past as you sit at your current sedarim, whether they are held in your own home or in the home of another.
And even before we reach the point of sedarim, and we're scurrying around the house, preparing it for Pesach mode, we remember...
This year, as I prepped the house I recalled helping my parents shlep up the boxes from the basement and down from the top closed cabinets in the kitchen, opening up and looking through the supplies as if we expected to find surprises. I recall my mother kashering cutlery with hot water, pots and stones. I recall buying tins of macaroons and fruity sugar candies with my father. I recall polishing the silver candlesticks and kiddush cups till they shone and laying out the white linen tablecloths (no plastic coverings for my family!) and the eclectic collection of Haggadot.
I recall the sedarim themselves-- my family on their own, never accepting an invitation to spend the seder elsewhere. My father explained it as I got older: "I was a guest for so many years at someone else's home. Now I have my own home, my own family, and I want to enjoy them." I, the singer and the youngest, had a fun time with all the songs and showing off my "Ma Nishtanah" every year. By the time we'd reach "Chad Gadya" my brothers and I would be punch-drunk, due to the lateness of the hour, and we'd be silly, as we sang with a limbo/salsa beat. And each year we'd end with "May we all be together next year again to celebrate."
When you come into a marriage, you acquire new minhagim, traditions, or you meld new ones with existing ones...finding a happy medium. My husband gave in to serving potatoes this year, along with the celery, for dipping in salt water. I reluctantly gave in when he, the born Sephardi, decided that he wanted to have rice for the first time on Pesach...
Just the thought of doing so felt WRONG for me, the Ashkenazi through and through. We've been married over thirteen years, and for the last number of years, debated the issue of rice at our Pesach table. But our marriage is a bridge of our cultures, our rich traditions, and those we pass on to our children. And so, rice was FINALLY served at our seder!
I looked at my children around the table, at the interest they take in the seder, at their facility with reading Hebrew when called upon to read from the Haggadah. Even our son, in grade one, read beautifully. I don't know if other kids in his class read Hebrew as he did, or if he surpasses them at that too (his English reading level is that of a nine or ten year old, pu, pu, pu), but it was a pleasure to listen to him sound out the difficult words and smile at the end of his reading contributions.
My daughter is a little Pearl -- I saw my young self in her. "When is it going to be my turn to read?" she continually asked. She sang the loudest, and seems to take the greatest interest in what she reads and how she presented her d'var Torah.
I hope and pray that we will continue to make Pesach memories...for ourselves, for our children...and "May we all be together again next year to celebrate."
Monday, April 02, 2007
A Little Pesach Poem -- Chametz-Free
And all through the house
Everyone was scurrying
busy like a mouse.
The chicken soup was boiling
Atop the stove in a pot
The brownies just out of the oven
Were nice and piping hot.
The seder plate was anxious
to be placed nicely on the table
"Okay, okay, I'll do it
in a little while, when I'm able."
The silver was nice and shiny
lined up all in a row
As I hurried to set the table
I foolishly stubbed my toe.
These are the familiar scenes
In every house and home
I thought I'd capture their essence
And put it together in a little poem.
Although I wrote it quickly
And really just off the cuff
I think I'd better stop here
I still have to get busy enough.
To get the preparations finished
For this Yom Tov that starts tonight
To you and your cherished families
May your Pesach be wonderful and bright.
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A very happy, Kosher Pesach to you and all those gathered 'round your tables!
Sunday, April 01, 2007
Friday, March 30, 2007
The Shabbos Queen...Revisited
Last month I submitted that poem for consideration to the Annual Passover Literary Supplement of the Canadian Jewish News.
The Shabbos Queen has now made her presence known, and appears this week in the literary supplement...in a center spread, noch!
I am rather pleased to be published again...just because it doesn't happen all that often!
I've already had a couple of people tell me that they saw and read the poem and that it's lovely. My mother reminded me of a cousin's wife who would look specifically for my name in the supplement each year.
Unfortunately, we buried that woman just over two weeks ago. She was sixty-two years young. Pancreatic cancer was the culprit, but our cousin fought with all her might and survived for nearly two and a half years with the raging disease.
At the funeral, aside from the rabbi speaking, the woman's two children spoke beautifully. Then her husband, my mother's first cousin, got up to do his own hesped...composed in spite of the difficulty of doing so.
He spoke of his wife's love for Shabbos, how each week was punctuated by preparing for Shabbos and hosting Shabbos. His wife died on a Friday afternoon, before she could welcome the Shabbos Queen again. He said that Shabbos would never be quite the same in their home.
I now dedicate my poem The Shabbos Queen to our cousin Rochelle Muller, a Shabbos Queen in her own right.
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Wishing everyone a warm and wonderful Shabbat Ha-Gadol.
Sunday, March 25, 2007
Easter Hunt of My Own
Well, I have a pretty serious grievance about this holiday that falls around the same time as Pesach. Nothing to do with bunnies, nothing to do with eggs...but lots to do with clothes!
It's somewhat of a minhag to have a new outfit for a major Yom Tov, or at least new shoes or accessories.
How many suits and shirts does my oldest son have for shul...but always chooses to wear the same pants, shirts and vests?
And my younger son is happiest with plain slacks and white dress shirt or his navy blue Shabbos suit.
And my daughter, Ms. Fashionista, is pretty finicky because I still buy most of her clothes, bring them home and hope/beg/bribe that she'll wear them. And if not, I'm a notorious merchandise returner at stores!
Okay, so for the last while, I've been keeping my eyes open for a new dress or outfit for my daughter for Pesach. I do not shop at chi-chi children's boutiques or in shops set up in suburban basements, but rather, in department stores. And knowing that Easter is a pretty major holiday, and formal with its church services and family dinners and egg hunts, I'm pretty sure I'll find something for my child.
Some department store flyers came into the house last week. Great, maybe I'll spot something for A, I thought.
What did I spot for girls? Cap sleeve dresses, sleeveless dresses, spaghetti-strap dresses, fancy tulle-pouffed creations that would suit a child in a wedding party, not a child going to church or synagogue for a prayer service.
Do these designers think that we all live bordering the Pacific Ocean, in the warm climes of Hawaii or California, or in the desert areas of Arizona or Nevada? It is about to be APRIL, designer people. Just a hint of spring is in the air in most of North America. What good will a thin-strapped, sleeveless dress do my Modern Orthodox daughter in shul?
I'm not exaggerating...just about everything I've seen being offered for Easter is what I deem summerwear!
Think about it: the Easter Bunny still wears a fur coat... Don't designers read into that and figure, "Hey, it must still be a little chilly. Perhaps we should design a dress with a matching sweater or a matching coat...and yes, even for girls." But they must think that as long as you've got your Easter bonnet on, you're fully dressed.
I think it might be time, after all, for me to expand the shopping horizons when it comes to buying shul outfits for my daughter. You know, actually, I realize, I've already done that. Last summer, while in Buffalo, NY, I bought her a dress that she wore for the fall Yom Tovs and again for an afternoon wedding in November.
I think I might just find out where the Easter Bunny shops. SHE is very cute-looking however she's dressed. Maybe the Easter Bunny knows something I don't...especially since that particular bunny has got "mass appeal!"
(Hey, have I set my own personal record for most posts in one day? I think I made up for last week's lull... Didn't I?)
Ode to Pesach
The pantry is empty, devoid of its stuff
Pesach is coming, enough is enough
The chametz got sold to our rabbi, you know
It was time to get rid of it, time to let go
I bought my Pesachdik groceries, paid more than I thought
I kept buying and buying; I bought and I bought
But don’t Pesach prices always get out of hand
For one week out of the year, we just don’t understand.
We feel the need to buy up the store
To prepare seders and meals and have nosh galore
And after the week is done and we’ve put on some weight
We avoid our scale, those numbers we hate!
We might lose some pounds as we meticulously “spring clean”
Making “seder” in our homes, on that we are keen
At least once a year we do this overhaul
And then we rest for a moment before the cooking calls.
Let’s plan some “healthy” dishes that use lots of eggs and oil
And matzah meal and matzah, over menus we will toil
We have to please our family and friends who join us for a meal
Several variations on matzah can have some “mass appeal.”
There’s always prune juice and compote for you who gets “stopped up”
Or pour yourself hot water with lemon juice and sip it from a cup.
As for me, I love matzah farfel and lots of macaroons
And soup mandlen and matzah balls, I have no use for prunes.
I took a moment to stop my cleaning and write this little ditty
“Have a good Pesach” is my wish for you out there
May you enjoy your family and friends, together celebrate and share.
The J.A.P. Show
Couldn't it play just a little bit closer to home, dammit!?
The J.A.P. Show
Did Jew Know...?
Unfortunately, the website seems to have a field day with writing about tragedies that happen worldwide to members of the Jewish community. Many commenters appear to have trouble with that; they don't know how to respond and are plain tired of reading about sad news items, they claim. Other commenters just want to have reason to throw around lots of Yeshivish lingo and expressions that could stand to be translated for the typical reader (MO) like me who isn't even familiar with all the expressions.
A recent entry and its follow-up comments ended up like a barroom brawl. The topic: Kosher for Passover Coca-Cola. Look at this entry and the follow-up responses, and watch how the theory about having three Jews and ten opinions really holds true! Yelling across cyberspace. Jews pointing fingers at Jews. How unmenschlich is that?!
There should be a sister site to The Yeshiva World called "Having Derech Eretz in Blogland." Before commenting on The Yeshiva World entries, readers have to visit the other site first and learn a few "Netiquette" details.
I am not part of the Yeshivish world, but I am curious about it and interested in it. I visit this site to learn something interesting and new. If I want to see Jews argue and make nasty comments, I could sit in on a private school tuition board meeting!
Write from the Heart
Friday, March 16, 2007
A Special Day (a long story made long!)
Wednesday, March 14, 2007
Sunday, March 11, 2007
The Passover OY Factor!
My Favorite Show
I went through a brief roster of what I know he watches and likes, and then I suggested, "Tom & Jerry?"
I was met with a big smile. "How did you know?"
"I guessed." And then I went on to tell him that the show was popular when I was a kid, too, and that I used to watch the show as well.
But I didn't want to tell him the truth that is circulating these days.
Robert Avrech posted about this last week and I was peeved then upon reading the entry. Dare I tell my child what some (crazy) people believe?
Shlemazel Mazel Revisited*
Talk about shlemazel mazel.
I was at the hospital the other day to visit my dad. I was wearing new boots that don't have much of a rubber grip on the sole. I was walking on a fancy, slippery, f tiled floor and felt my heel slip up and I go down.
Talk about shlemazel mazel. I fell in the corridor right in front of the hospital administrator's office. It was right in front of the pharmacy. Hospital volunteers who saw me go down came to help me up and make sure I was okay.
I was.
But I guess if I have to fall -- and perhaps hurt myself -- inside a hospital is the best place to do it.
*****
Okay, I might've been a shlemazel that day, but I did remember to turn my clocks ahead for today.
Did you????
Thursday, March 08, 2007
Quirks & Meshugas
1. When I'm driving behind or beside an extended tractor-trailer that is hauling automobiles to a dealership, I have this great fear that the automotive cargo will somehow become free and the vehicles will start rolling backwards and straight into my car.
Am I the only one with such a meshugas?
2. I'm not so aware of this anymore, but all the while that I grew up and lived in my parents' home, whenever a salad bowl was sitting in front of me and the salad tossers were right in front of me, sitting on "my side" of the bowl, I always had to shift the tossers to the other side of the bowl. Somehow with them "in my face," I always felt unnerved.
Am I the only one with such a meshugas?
3. When I used to take subways and buses to work and went a particular route, I either could opt to wait for the last bus of the route that would take me 3 short stops to right in front of my office building, or I could walk for five minutes and get there just the same.
Why, when I chose to walk, would I still look back every couple of minutes to see if a bus was coming? I could only take that bus from the first stop, so it never made sense to me that I'd even bother to look back, seeing as I would not take the bus anyhow.
4. Why do I still practice signing my name constantly? I'm not planning to autograph any books anytime soon...
5. Why do I continually repeat myself to my husband and children, even though I'm aware I've said the same thing before?
6. Why do I continually like to reveal my "weaknesses" and faults to blog readers, virtual strangers?
Shrek Karaoke Dance Party Music Video
While we're on the karaoke craze, I thought you might like this to help bring in Shabbat. It certainly puts a smile on MY face.
Have a good Shabbos, everyone.
Wednesday, March 07, 2007
Can't Make Tou Love Me - Bonnie Raitt
(I can't fix the Tou in the title and make it You)
I love this song.
I love to sing.
I love the idea of Karaoke.
Imagine a Pearlies of Wisdom rendition of this beautiful Bonnie Raitt song.
Sung more or less to THE BRADY BUNCH theme
of a blogger named Neil
who was living with his ex in Redondo Beach
He kept us all informed
of his comings and goings
'cause we're not all within his physical reach.
It's the story
of Neilochka Kramer
who was celebrating something special
on this March date
but if you tune in
to the tributes sometime next week
you'll be a few days much too late!
So we wish you, Neil,
a very happy birthday
you're one hell of a special kind of guy
you have the gift to make us laugh or scream hysterically
some of us have been even known to cry
That's Neil Kra-mer, that's Neil Kra-mer
Our favorite "Citizen of the Month"...
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Happy Birthday, Neil. Sending you warm wishes from Toronto..........................
Monday, March 05, 2007
Crossing Delancey
But Sylvia Miles, who plays matchmaker Hannah Mandelbaum, has this wonderful line in the film: "Ya look, ya meet, ya try, ya see."
It applies to just about everything in life and is worthy of being remembered.
Sunday, March 04, 2007
Citizen of the Month's Special Birthday Surprise
Friday, March 02, 2007
Purim, Shabbos, and all that Stuff
Life is busy. Life is good. Life MARCHes on.
Good Shabbos. Have a freiliche Purim.
Thursday, March 01, 2007
An Affair To Remember
Approximately 50,000 people attended the Chasunah [wedding] of the oldest grandson of the Gerrer Rebbe on Tuesday evening. The Chupa was set up on a high roof near Rechov Bar-Ilan, which was completely closed to traffic.
The Rebbe used this opportunity to convey a message, (albeit without words) to his Chassidim: Cut costs for the weddings of your children and grandchildren.
This has been a major issue in the Frum communities for a while, with Gur instructing families to limit invitees to a total of 400. Although the Rebbe couldn’t be expected to adhere to such limits, the Rebbe did set a strict budget.
Unlike the weddings for his own children, the Rebbe decided to invite the public only to the Chupa. Only a few hundred guests were invited to the Seudah, while the rest made do with light refreshments.
( This story is credited to http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/. I like to go on this site several times a week...and pick up new -- to me, anyhow -- Yeshivish idiomatic expressions, as well as interesting news from around the world.)
Wednesday, February 28, 2007
Tu Mir a Toiveh*
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
The Perfect Name
Ruchama is the Hebrew word for mercy/compassion. She was named well.
Ruchama is a published book author and regular contributor to the World Jewish Digest. She has written about stories and children, death and the chevra kadisha (Jewish burial society), childbirth and parenting. Her book Seven Blessings, put out by St. Martin's Press, was well received.
A couple years ago, someone asked me if I'd like to contribute a short story to an anthology. To say that I was flattered is an understatement. To learn that a story of mine -- if accepted, of course! -- would be published alongside one of Ruchama's, floored me! I started writing, but had great difficulty writing in that genre...and perhaps lucky for me, the literary project folded before it had ever truly begun. But still, I walked away smiling, just thinking about authors such as Ruchama, in whose company my story would have appeared in this book.
Well, I'm not writing short stories these days, but I'm sure Ruchama still is... And long stories... And everything in between!
Ruchama is a ghostwriter, and a writing coach. And she just recently started a blog. You can reach it, and her, at http://www.writetogether.typepad.com/.
I like the Jewish proverb that Ruchama cites on the blog: "There are three things a person should do in one’s lifetime: Have a child, plant a tree, and write a book.”
Hmm...at this point in my life, I guess I have to say, "Two out of three ain't bad"!
Do check out Ruchama's writing, and if you're a writer with a story to tell, why not contact her for some friendly pointers in the WRITE direction!? You might just end up writing a book...
Monday, February 26, 2007
(Not) Full of Gas!
A frost in California or Florida? The price of oranges and grapes go up. Salmonella outbreak? No greens to be found. A refinery fire? No gas...
Read on. This article is from last Wednesday. The problem is continuing, and getting worse.
Gas shortage a symptom of big Ontario problem, group says
An Ontario refinery fire has left gas stations with dry tanks and higher prices because the province depends too heavily on imported fuel, an independent retail group says.
Jane Savage, president of the Canadian Independent Petroleum Marketers Association, said the Feb. 15 fire at Imperial Oil's Nanticoke plant has triggered "a very severe shortage."
"I'd characterize it as probably the worst supply situation the industry here in Ontario has seen in decades," she told CBC News Online on Wednesday.
Speaking from her east-end Toronto office, Savage said the shortage has been accompanied by a rise in the wholesale prices charged by Imperial and other refiners.
But she joined other industry officials in urging drivers not to panic and not to hoard fuel, which she said is unnecessary and would worsen shortages and drive prices higher.
Ontario's basic problem is a lack of refining capacity, partly a result of the closing of an obsolete Petro-Canada refinery west of Toronto in 2005, she said.
There have been other recent glitches, however.
"We had a problem at Imperial's other refinery over the holidays," she said. "There's the rail strike, which has chewed up the transportation network pretty badly. So getting product is hard in a landlocked province which is net short of refining capacity."
Drivers encountering locked-up pumps this week at scores of southern Ontario gas stations - some under Imperial's Esso banner, others supplied by the company - can testify to that.
Although a small fraction of the province's thousands of gas stations ran out of fuel, pump prices moved well above 90 cents a litre in many places, up from the 70s in January's mild spell.
The crippled refinery normally converts 118,000 barrels of crude oil a day into about 12 million litres of gasoline and varying amounts of jet fuel, heating oil, diesel fuel and other products, Imperial spokesman Gordon Wong said.
The fire has temporarily halved its gasoline output and also reduced production of diesel and heating oil, he told CBC News Online.
Imperial hopes to avoid having furnaces go cold at this time of year, he said.
"We're giving priority to heating oil customers."
Savage said Ontario is too dependent on refined fuel landed at Montreal and pumped west by pipeline.
"These are cargos that are on the water and are being traded and diverted into Montreal, so it's European refineries, generally, and eastern U.S refineries."
"The supply line into Ontario is a long one," she continued, "and when you get a refinery that has another problem on top of that, you're into some pretty significant issues, as we're seeing right now."
A former Imperial Oil engineer, Savage now represents large independents such as Canadian Tire, Pioneer and OLCO. Those companies buy their fuel from Imperial and other majors.
"Independents, as I think folks know, are just overgrown consumers. We buy directly from the refiners, just in bigger quantities," she said.
Not only have the prices they pay jumped, but the spread between local and international prices has widened, she said.
On Monday, the Toronto wholesale gasoline price (known as the rack price) was 7.7 cents a litre above a benchmark New York cargo price, she said.
That represents an increase of 3.2 cents since Feb. 14, she said, and the highway diesel fuel spread widened even more.
At the same time, the international price rose about a penny, she said.
She declined to speculate on whether the Ontario shortage has emboldened operators to raise pump prices beyond their cost increases.
Despite the shortage, she stressed the folly of fuel hoarding.
"Panic would be the worst possible thing here in terms of the public, and only because it would cause more shortages and more price increases.
"There's no need to panic from the public's point of view, but I do want to be very up front with people about the fact that I think our governments need to take some action on improving our supply networks here."
With files from the Canadian Press
Sunday, February 25, 2007
An Avocation for an Advocate
After (Billable) Hours, Lawyers Moonlight as Bloggers
By Cameron Stracher
The recent disclosure (by the New York Observer) that the anonymous legal blogger Opinionista is 27-year-old former law-firm associate Melissa Lafsky -- following the recent disclosures (by the New Yorker and the New York Times) that former prosecutor David Lat was the voice behind the blog Underneath their Robes and that former Harvard law student Jeremy Blachman penned the blog Anonymous Lawyer -- raises a question. Are all lawyers secret bloggers, frustrated writers or both? More important, should they keep their day jobs?
Lawyers and blogging go together like witches and stoning. According to a survey conducted by blogads.com, lawyers ranked fourth among both readers and posters to blogs. Many of the best- known blogs, such as instapundit.com, are run by lawyers. It's easy to understand why blogging attracts the J.D. set: Few professions combine as much creative talent with so much mind-numbing work.
Each year thousands of otherwise perfectly normal college graduates with perfectly worthless degrees in the humanities venture into law school in the hope of landing a paying job that requires no science and little math. Many have been encouraged by college counselors who have told them that law school will "keep their options open" -- code for delaying the inevitable for another three years -- and it pays better than academia.
Law schools feed this myth because they need paying customers, even as the members of their own faculty are refugees from the very firms to which they are sending their students. Upon graduation, however, many students find that the entry-level jobs they get are little more than glorified secretarial positions. Sure, they pay well, but how many paper clips can you remove from a stack of documents before you start questioning your entire existence?
In the dark hours, writing seems like a natural escape. It's what most lawyers do (when they're not reviewing documents), and though blogging is very different from drafting a prospectus, it's close enough to fool many lawyers into trading one form of verbiage for another. Writing a blog can also be done in secret, on your own time (or during office hours if you're careful), and it is potentially lucrative (if you can get some ads or make a name for yourself). For many lawyers, writing is also their true love, a dream they had before financial concerns and parental pressure drove them into drudgery. Some turn to nonfiction, hoping to transform their legal meanderings into punditry. Others (myself included) seek to channel their inner McInerney by penning the next great American novel, or at least a best seller.
The first generation of lawyer/writers, like Scott Turow and John Grisham, were able to blend law and writing (even now, Mr. Turow practices part-time). The second generation seems to want only to avoid practicing law at all costs. Mr. Lat, for example, essentially forced his employer to dismiss him by posting comments about some of the judges before whom he appeared (though he denies that he was fired). He now writes for the blog Wonkette.com, a Washington gossip site made notorious by Ana Marie Cox. Mr. Blachman wrote screeds in the voice of a fictional law firm partner that effectively made him unemployable by any major firm, then unveiled himself to the Times. His novel will be published this summer by Henry Holt. Ms. Lafsky told the New York Observer that she outed herself to "forc[e] myself to really make a career in writing work." In January she signed with a literary agent at ICM and quit her day job. She is writing a novel.
We should applaud their efforts to escape a profession that has one of the lowest levels of job satisfaction. If money is the goal, though, these lawyers might be more successful if they played the lottery. Legal-thriller writer Lisa Scottoline once told me that she wrote her first book as a way to earn some money following a divorce. She succeeded in spite of her naïveté.
It also takes more than a blog. While the breathless form of the Web diary might work to titillate readers as they surf during their lunch hour -- particularly when the author is anonymous and dangerous (to himself, if not to anyone else) -- holding a reader's attention over the course of 300 pages requires a different skill entirely. The same unattributed gripes and gossip feel random and weightless strung together page after page (one reason perhaps that Ms. Cox's novel has not been particularly successful). Quotidian blog entries succumb to what the late author Frank Conroy called "abject naturalism," the agglomeration of details devoid of larger structure. Without a clear narrative thread, a blog is simply sound and fury, signifying nothing but misplaced ambition.
Good writing, contrary to the advice of your creative writing teacher, is about more than what you know. The world these writers are trying so desperately to flee is not a world any of us would want to visit for more than five pages: the overbearing boss, the dehumanizing office, the mindless drudgery. It might have worked for Kafka, but only after he turned himself into a cockroach.
The lawyer/writers who have succeeded -- Mr. Turow, Mr. Grisham, Ms. Scottoline and a handful of others -- have done so because their worlds are so unlegal, or illegal. After all, it's not every new associate who finds that his law firm is controlled by the mob (as was Mr. Grisham's in "The Firm") or every Supreme Court clerk who is tricked and then blackmailed into disclosing pending decisions (as was Brad Meltzer's in the "The Tenth Justice") or every defense attorney who has to represent her professed twin sister (as in Ms. Scottoline's "Mistaken Identity"). Law is just an excuse for a venue in these books, not its raison d'être.
Unlike unhappy families, unhappy lawyers are all unhappy in the same way. A happy lawyer, now there's a story worth telling. Start a blog!
-- Mr. Stracher is publisher of the New York Law School Law Review and author of "Double Billing: A Young Lawyer's Tale of Greed, Sex, Lies and the Pursuit of a Swivel Chair